Hi!…. Crap. I forgot what I was gonna say next. Ahhhhhh!
See other posts on what to say first – 1, 2
So, much more important than the first thing you say is what you say next.
- A go-to transition:
“So what are you up to on this ____ day?” (insert “beautiful,” “sunny,” “rainy,” “delightfully overcast,” etc. You can make an easy first joke in any situation)
- Make a cold read: Observe something about the situation and make a comment about her life/personality based on it. Example: She’s holding a bunch of bags. point at her bags “You’re totally a shopaholic huh. There’s just one thing you went to the store for and then 15 other items mysteriously appeared in your hands. You know the first step is admitting you have a problem.” “Oh haha.. ya. I guess I am.” “That totally happens to me all the time too though. It’s rough. Sometimes those sales are too good to pass up. And sometimes 15 of them happen to pop up in a row. So besides loving to shop, what’s your story? What do you do?/Are you from around here?”
The cold read doesn’t have to be remotely accurate. If you’re wrong, it’s funny (or you’re at least saying something interesting). If you’re right, then you seem like you’re more insightful.
Exercise: Play Sherlock Holmes. Think about why a girl is wearing a certain article of clothing/jewelry, walking a certain way, has an emblem on something, talks a certain way. Now write down 3 potential reasons she would have that. Now figure out a way to say that reason in conversation.
See here for more details: http://krauserpua.com/2012/07/18/cold-reading-for-daygame-street-stops/
- Role play
Creating an imaginary situation can make things more fun and let’s the other person picture you in various scenarios with them. Let’s take the example of the girl with a bunch of bags again. You could use a similar role-play to the one from your posted video “oh wow, look at all those bags you have… you didn’t have to get all that for me! You’re so thoughtful! I’m not gonna let you win me over that easy though.”
See here for more details: http://www.nickhoss.com/pua-attraction-role-play-mr-m/
- Continuing a conversation
It’s ok to ask those normal questions of “What do you do?” and “Where are you from?” When you do ask those however, instead of settling for the base answer, get to the WHY. There’s usually a deeper meaning behind the information people give you. If you can get to the emotional states and values behind that information, you will be able to relate emotionally to the person and be able to build deep rapport.
See my next post here: https://datingintheday.wordpress.com/2013/08/07/four-ways-to-improve-your-conversational-skills/
- Most important: Active Listening
One of the most important and difficult aspects to master in conversation is active listening. Instead of thinking of the next thing to say, stay in the moment and listen to the information that is given to you. A person will tell you what’s important to them. If you focus the conversation around that, the other person will find the conversation much more interesting and like you more as a result.
Live meeting girl conversations: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T8YhjjGLtmM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MlLzsUfc44w
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Dating in the Day 
This is amazing my man, great post.
Found you through krauser’s comment section of cold reading.
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Glad you liked it my man! Feel free to email me with any questions as I haven’t posted on this blog for ages. I did coaching for a while but now have little time to post on this thing….